Love, as in any victim of humanity’s tendency to corrupt, has been compartmentalized for convenience and abused to the point of it losing its very meaning – or should I say, of us failing to remember its true essence. There is a universal quality of Love that constantly resists our unceasing impulsion to dominate and to posses – and this reality is quite harsh for us to accept, so we mold a new face towards love; a rather familiar yet not as true to the form as it should be – a domesticated love would describe it better. If I give love, I demand love – and this is where the masses fall. Love is too great a topic to dive upon, so I’ll be narrowing my thoughts into Three ideas.
Love is, first and foremost, a response, not merely an expression, rather a disposition of the will to acknowledge that the other IS – and as we get to know this other we begin to love, we begin to commune, we begin to be shaped according to that which we love. We respond by perfecting ourselves because of this other. Love is not to spoil the other, but to embark on a journey to better oneself – for the other. This is how the possibility of loving someone without being physically together becomes possible…distance becomes powerless if I can love you without you. And you ask, how will you be able to express this love towards the other? I say, if you truly understand the concept of prayer, then you’re not quite far off.
We love because we’ve received love…directly or indirectly – there are no other explanations outside of this notion. All other are but interpretations of how love is received and not how love is given – the rest are but endeavors to romanticize, and therefore, append unnecessary trimmings so we could swallow it easier. EASIER – that is the word, but like things manipulated for convenience, love too can be dealt with indifference. . There will come a time when familiarity will come and seep in, and when that time comes, the enchantment of being “in” love may fade, and if we have not surpassed towards true and bare love by that time, everything will become unbearable and regret will definitely break you apart. When the feeling of being in love wanes, love must remain. That is why we must seize that we deem to prize quite greatly with each other and “unromanticize” it, leaving it grounded in reality and accepting it as it is without the “sweetness” of being in love…the irony is, once realized, everything about whom we love becomes meaningful, real, and sweet.
If the simplest form of love is charity, the highest form of love is letting go. To let go is not to leave nor depart, but to let the other be – to let the significant other become loved rather than demanding on what our love effects on the other. We love not for its effect on the other nor the benefits we will receive, we love because we are…and deviating from this truth will consume us and turn us into a vacuum that will suck the life out of the very person we love. To fully love someone is to become love, infect the other with this love, and let go…when it comes full circle and returns to you, this is what we call Communion.
If I am no longer afraid to lose you, then I’d be free in loving you…
….. one word to describe how i feel when ever i read this….
NAGTIGALGAL
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